December 27, 2008
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A Xanga resolution.
After some gentle prodding from husband, I decided to write this blog.
It will be the only time I address anything remotely dealing with this drama crap, so pay attention.
This. is. ridiculous.I shouldn’t be surprised that so much drama goes on in this little community of ours, but as I log in to Xanga each day, I wonder what today’s thing will be.
Who cares who’s in top blogs? What’s wrong with the “ish” sites? If you don’t like what you see, stop looking at it. If someone annoys you, find someone else to read. It’s just that simple.
People blog for all sorts of reasons. It’s their release … their mind’s saving grace. We vent. We share. We discuss. In the end, we do what we want in our space.
Do I enjoy everyone’s blogs? Nope. But it’s not my place to discourage their use of our beloved Xanga. As I’ve said before, though, it would serve us well to remember that real people live behind these screen names. You don’t have to like anyone, but dammit, stop with all the needless bickering, blasting and bitching.
We will be kicking off 2009 next week; I propose we all begin the new year with a new outlook. Our interests may differ from one another, but one thing we have in common is this place—please consider making it a better place to blog, for all our sakes.
After all, this petty stuff doesn’t matter. FAMILY and REAL LIFE matter most.It’s about the smiles you make with heartfelt, homemade gifts.
It’s about the family you grow up—and grow old—with:
And it’s about the person who loves you no matter what; the one who wants only the best
for you, even if it’s writing about a subject you never wanted to touch.Xanga isn’t life, it’s only a part of it.
Comments (82)
Everyone, Jen means business. She actually said dammit and bitching IN THE SAME SENTENCE!!!!! I couldn’t agree with you more love! I’m so over it!
HERE HERE! =]
Alright, Alright. It did get a little ugly today.
Cheers to that!
Agreed!!!!
YES YES YES
I don’t see what’s so hard of turning away from something/one that annoys you. If you don’t like it, don’t look at it. It’s that simple. No one’s forcing anyone to read anything.
@TheTheologiansCafe - Haha, just a bit. I’ve been absent for a few days, and I was concerned by what I came back to.
I don’t have any problem with anything on the post. The only issue I have are the stupid emails. I get tired of getting Xanga Suicide emails and Poop mass mail. BLogging should be about doing something your enjoy.
Trying to use mass emails just to get viewers or create drama is a turn off for me and makes me want to avoid the bloggers who do so. I don’t mind getting a mass email if there REALLY is a good reason or a nice message. I don’t want drama mass emails. Perhaps I am being silly but that is how I feel.
You write blogs that I enjoy reading and don’t create drama. I don’t think it is necessary to get viewers. Content and time do that:)
Well said.
Strongly Agreee :]
It’s TheTheologians fault
True that
I think that it’s unnecessary…….
Good plan (:
Well said
@watersedge62 - I agree with you there. The mindless mass messages are quite unnecessary …
And I’m glad you enjoy reading! That really means a lot.
Finally somebody has the guts to say “what’s wrong with the ‘ish’ sites?” *applause*
Sounds good to me. :]
@TheTheologiansCafe - @mayanao - No, not at all. I think that this is something that has been bubbling for awhile. That’s not to say that Dan’s post didn’t push it out of me, though. Many of the comments on his blog were very negative toward a lot of different people—it disheartens me that people will “kick” others they don’t really know.
I agree! There’s way too much drama on Xanga. We just need to chill
)
Happy New Year’s! (a few days early)
@BarelyJen - This site should be enjoyable. If I don’t like someone’s thoughts, I just don’t read their blogs. Everyone has the right to express themselves in their own space!
i couldn’t agree more!!
amen. =) cute background/profile pic by the way
Makes me glad I continue to fly under the radar screen and escape much of what you’re addressing.
But drama is fun :O
That was very juvenile.
BRAVO!!
Wanna be my Best Friend…LOL!
that would certainly take the fun out of it for some people
@k8tthelate - LOL, too true!
I’ve been blogging for over five years, and I’ve never seen it get so bad. I was relatively widely read when I was in college, and I never had as much drama on my site as any of this junk. I don’t understand why people can’t just blog and let blog.
amen.
unnecessary drama is just that. unnecessary.
Nothing’s wrong with the ish sites – but we need an option to turn off their messages to us should we so choose.
Here here! From now on, I make a pledge not to bicker with you, anymore.
Thank you for this! I’ve never understood the psycho-xanga-drama. I’ve been a member for years, doing my own thing, commenting here and there, reading much, not starting anything, staying very much out of the spotlight…and I’m happy, content, and not overwhelmed by online drama!
Thanks for being a voice of reason
I second that!! Especially the part about venting O.O
If Xanga did not exist, I would vent to my friends and in the process, lose like half of them. Thank you Xanga <3 <3
Sheesh… I need more Head Nog for this.
Well said, well said.
I get a kick out of some of it. It really is pretty comical the way some folks act. You are exactly right on one point for sure. There is a real person behind every screen name, weither they have it to hide their identity or if it is the person reaching out to others. When I first started doing this, I let it get to me when someone bad mouthed what I said or was just plain rude. I just laugh at it now. I do consider what they say and if I think they are right I tell them they changed my mind. That doesn’t happen often though
. I wish everyone would be more civil in 2009, but I have a feeling some of the same ole folks will still be the same ole folks…and there will prolly be some new ones!
Hope you had a great Christmas.
~Grampy~
goooooooooo xanga!
Drama gets old fast but for some reason people seem to love it,I do not enjoy drama or bitching…
I too hope for a better 2009!
A much needed post Jen. Here’s to the New Year!
o yea!!! but people are people and some like to make drama so in a perfect world people are open minded but the reality is people only pretend to be to ignore how intolerant they really are. the fact that these people have to “pick on” other writers proves how close minded they really are. stay true, good piece!!
Here here! I save all my bitching and moaning to the confined spaces of AIM. That’s what my good good xanga friends are for, right? =)
Nicely said :]
I think the thing about drama is that you really choose to be involved in it or not. It’s the same as it was as early back as middle school–the people who wanted to stay out of it did, and they generally ended up better off in the end. Those who overreacted and complained about drama only generated more drama.
I think we really need to be looking for these things to make them a big deal. If we see a “most hated Xangan post,” we could always just skip over it or not read the comments or something. I think it’s funny that people get so worked up on this site because of drama when we can avoid things with a simple click!
Or maybe I just don’t understand the scope of Xanga drama because I’m not exactly part of the “community” and I haven’t formed what I’d call friendships… But regardless, I think all drama is really pretty childish, to props to you for writing this post!
@StewieIsMyHero - i wub you, honey.
True, true. XD
YAY!!!
Well said!
Xanga’s a big place. There’s plenty of room for all sorts of blogs. And easy enough most of them.
I am glad that I dont hear much about the drama. It is ridiculous. I hope everyone takes your advice seriously!
good post. (I’m watchin’ on the sidelines)
so true -thanks for speaking your mind
I’m so with you on this one. Thanks to hubby who insisted that you make a bold statement. When I unsubscribe to someone it’s because of language (usually). I really try to hear the viewpoint of someone else , unless the language is offensive. After all it’s my choice who I read after all…
i had no idea there was drama going on in the first place.
but nice post.
@lovesporks - LOL, I didn’t think it was that bad until I read the comments of one of theTheologiansCafe’s posts … the whole thing is absurd, and just needs to stop. After today, I won’t address it again.
@BarelyJen - yeah, the question in that post was begging for some controversy, i think. uh oh!
i agree!
I agree. John and team didn’t decide to create the sites because they felt like sinking Xanga. I think some of them are a little strange to make as separate sites, but then nobody asked my opinion so I live with it. This IS our neighborhood by golly, and I am proud of it! Jen, what are these negative posts you are seeing? Perhaps I’m not reading them – or I have selective “hearing”… JenniferLynn
Yay! =D
Good words!
I’ll admit it, I fought back when someone attacked me. I didn’t want to, but people have a way with words. I hope I didn’t start any of the drama you are referring to. If I did, please be honest with me and tell me. I’ve been living under the delusion that I’m not popular enough to make an impact on people like that. I need to take into consideration that even if only two people read the post, those two people are actual people and I need to be just as careful as I am in real life when I write. I’m sorry…
I agree!
@lizheartshakespeare - What happened? No, this wasn’t toward anyone in particular, but it definitely wasn’t said with you in mind, so no worries!
sounds like a plan!
@BarelyJen - Go check out my latest post. Its too complicated to leave in comments.
I think I missed today’s drama, but you’re right; I wish people could just play nice too.
Very well put. There is enough drama in most of our real lives. I cannot understand why anyone would want to create drama online as well.
Xanga is where I come to vent about the drama in my life. I am not interested in reading about (or getting involved in) the drama between this member and that member.
Great job! Great pics. Heart warming.
Nice posts…and super cute pics!!!
I definitely agree! What matters isn’t what is written but that it’s written. =]
Well said!! Nice photos of a happy family.
Most bloggers here are still wrestling with adolescence or the remnants of it. This is especially true for many in the ‘top bloggers’ tier. Gossip is the only intrigue when the talent faucet dries up.
good list.
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Cheers to this. I am usually very much out of the drama loop as it’s just not my scene. But the few things I have encountered are often ridiculous and childish.
Well said, and wishing you the best in the new year,
Taylor
Right on.
AMEN!!!!
I agree with watersedge62. My blog hasn’t caused you any drama, has it? I apologize if it has. it’s just a blog.
my thoughts exactly! xanga drama? unheard of. you’re a classy lady, and your family pix are absolutely adorable.
@deathtothenewworldorder - LOL, absolutely. It’s just a blog. I don’t understand why people take it so seriously … it’s. the. INTERNET!!!! (And no, your blog hasn’t caused me any drama, so no worries)
@happyjen85 - Thank you very much!