April 9, 2009
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My best friend’s back.
In an all-consuming relationship for the past few years, bestest had focused on her freshly-graduated life and guy. It was a mostly long-distance thing, so I understood when evenings out or weekend jaunts were pushed aside in order to spend time with him. She was happy, so who was I to question it? After all, husband and I had a fairly lengthy long-distance portion ourselves, so I KNEW what it was like to miss each other. When guy started becoming wishy-washy, though, we warned her that it wouldn’t end well. Being blindly in love, she held on. It’s easy for outsiders to say we’d just leave in situations like that, but honestly, I’m sure I would have tried to salvage the YEARS put in to something that was mostly good. Nevertheless, we took a step back and withdrew our advice—she needed to figure this out on her own.
After a few months of back and forth, she reached her limit. She was tired of watching friendships and LIFE opportunities flit past while she waited for guy to get on the same page as her.
This strong woman stood up for herself and reclaimed her life. She is ready to move on, and we are ready for her.
I love you, bestest.
What post break-up regimen do you have?
Comments (20)
It’s been so long since dealing with a break up, I couldn’t advise well…but it usually involved some form of escapism.
im glad you got her back
Keep myself busy so I can’t think about it. I tend to do the whole “what if” business, and that’s never a good idea. Also, think about all the reasons we broke up, as a reminder.
move on asap is what i do, i cant forget one of my exes thoguh and his name is on my lower back
Beer.
DON’T sit around, thinking over what happened, wondering “what could have been.”
DO find some good friends, those who care, and are willing to spend some time having fun, and do just that. Do waht you can to brighten your spirits, and “move on.”
I usually throw myself into writing. It always makes me feel better.
i cant be forced to talk about it… im an internal processor. so i just gotta think. and distract myself.
Have one good cry and vent session with a close friend. Then I keep myself busy and as far away from the ex as I can be.
What’s a “regimine?” If you mean “regimen,” then I don’t have anything specific. I just play the music louder, drink a little more (I drink very infrequently – abut once a month, and then only a bacardi cooler/smirnoff or two), and vent it out with a close friend or two. Nothing too complicated.
@hecticmuse - Meh, you try typing a blog on an iPhone! LOL, I keep trying to go back to change it, and it times out. Just logged into real computer to fix. Ugh.
Keep myself busy and hanging out with friends..Those worked for me recently..
Well, it’s been 25 years (Palm Sunday) since my wife and I were engaged so memory may be a little foggy about girls in early 80′s. One thing I remember was that if you planned on breaking up with a gf at dinner, do not let her order steak, reason was… with steak they bring her a steak knife. Cutlery near an angry woman can be a problem from my experience.
My last gf (ick!) never really broke up with me, just waited till I called and said NO to everything I asked. Ok, I told her if she wanted to break up, go ahead but that one day she would be back. I said that to her in 1982 and one day she will be back!
Thanks Jen for being there. I am back and moving on. Only time will tell where my life will lead me.
Its always nice when someone sees that losing their friends and everything else just isnt worth it.
I usually tried to find another guy! LOL. How stupid I was…
Strippers.
can you make me a banner like you did for edlives but make it say Brain Anime Network?
so can you?
God Bless You!