my friend has a friend (seriously) who needs advice.
he wants to know how to get his wife to have sex with him.
sounds like a no-brainer, right? wrong.
women are an enigma, and i'm afraid that no man will ever fully figure us out.
(some have come close, though ...)
with that said, we're willing to throw you a bone every now and then ... because really, we want to be satisfied just as much as you do.
guys, you need to:
1. take charge. don't beat around the bush when it comes to sex. if you want it, make your presence known. lead us, hold us, push us on the bed ... when done correctly — and safely — it's a fabulous turn-on! which leads us to ...
2. take the initiative! simply stated, subtlety doesn't work. believe me, we ALWAYS know when you want it — we just want to see you work for it. just because you sleep "right next door" doesn't mean she'll automatically give you a cup of her sugar. show her you want it, and she'll most likely do the "neighborly" thing.
3. surprise her! sometimes, there is nothing better than a sexual ambush. we love passionate kisses in the hallway, surprise neck nuzzles while cooking dinner and laundry folding liaisons. caress her arm as you pass or simply draw her close for a slow dance in the living room. these small sensual acts typically have big payoffs. seriously, try it.
4. romance her. every woman wants to be reminded you desire her. go out for dinner, buy her favorite flower, leave some love notes around the house and yes — talk about her feelings. you've gotta work some to get some!
5. respect her. i'm sure it's hard to believe, but sometimes, she just won't want to have sex, no matter what you do. let her have her "i feel fat/tired/headachy" day. she'll remember the effort you put in and most likely repay you (and then some) as soon as she's up to it.
6. keep it spicy! missionary is lame and sideways is tame. fill your "bag of tricks" with a variety of things to choose from. (this goes back to the idea of surprising us) think about it: you don't eat or wear the same thing every day, so don't have sex the same way every day, either!
once the passion is a flowin', you'll be sure to get her goin'!
good luck, sirs, and Godspeed.
*as always, recommendations are welcome.
NOTE: the follow-up post — how to satisfy your man — can be found here.
you are awesome! i <3 you and highly recommend your post...to ALL men!...even the ones who think they are sex gods.
@jediwa72 - lol, i got about halfway through this list in my first comment, but i was like "omgoodness, this is just TOO good to not share ..." so there you go!
(i think i want to add in your thought of spicing it up ... we get bored easily, too)
This is the best post I have read on the subject matter at hand. LOL I love this!!!! SOO SOOO TRUE!!!! WAY TO GO GIRLY! I need to print this out and put it under my boyfriends pillow or something.
i wholeheartedly agree that this is a sexy post.
*approved*
@BarelyJen - add on! i think it would be so fun to compile some advice for these guys! we can be pleasured to the point we will want it more...if they only knew...whahah!
Great stuff! And so true...it's so hot when a guy takes charge and is somewhat forceful. Man...now you got me all hot n bothered..
I'm def. going to subscribe to your page. This post is brilliant!!
REC'D!! I could've shown this to my fiance, if I hadn't already gone through pretty much everything here with him. lol! Excellent post!!
haha interesting (: i can't agree more though.
Hah, this is awesome
Ha, so very true. I think it's so adorable when me and my fiance' are watching tv and out of nowhere he'll turn and kiss me on my forehead .. *sigh*
This is excellent! So true...every last word of it.
I'm a big fan of the random romantic moments that come out of nowhere. My fiance is the king of that. He picks strange moments and makes them so touching and beautiful.
Well done,
Taylor
Wrote it down on my arm as a cheatsheet...will try some of these suggestions when I get home. Hahaha...
Oh yeah - so true........ V
Common sense things for the not so common sense people.
I'm one of the only guys commenting here. Suhweet. The ladies shall be all MINE!
Seriously though, I think number one is a bit tough since simply asking for sex and being up-front can very easily come across as offensive, or make you look like a selfish jackass even in the context of a serious relationship... and especially outside of that context. Do you just simply "go for it" and hope for the best or are there appropriate times to ask for it and not-so-appropriate times to ask for it? You don't have to answer but it's something to think about.
@Extremegoatmaster - don't just say "hey, can we have sex?!" — that's just lazy. but don't try to hint around about it, without making any effort to woo.
@BarelyJen - How about, "I'd like to make love to you"? or, "I'd like to take you to bed"?
Too forward?
I always use to say, Sex begins in the kitchen, the living room, and the dining room.
[Begins Taking Notes] Thanks!
Common sense never sounded so sweet. You've got my rec!
every now and then ... because really, we want to be satisfied just as much as you do.
when it comes to sex. if you want it, make your presence known. lead us, hold us, push us on the bed ... when done correctly — and safely — it's a fabulous turn-on! which leads us to ... 
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you are awesome! i <3 you and highly recommend your post...to ALL men!...even the ones who think they are sex gods.
@jediwa72 - lol, i got about halfway through this list in my first comment, but i was like "omgoodness, this is just TOO good to not share ..." so there you go!
(i think i want to add in your thought of spicing it up ... we get bored easily, too)
This is the best post I have read on the subject matter at hand. LOL I love this!!!! SOO SOOO TRUE!!!! WAY TO GO GIRLY! I need to print this out and put it under my boyfriends pillow or something.
i wholeheartedly agree that this is a sexy post.
*approved*
@BarelyJen - add on! i think it would be so fun to compile some advice for these guys! we can be pleasured to the point we will want it more...if they only knew...whahah!
Great stuff! And so true...it's so hot when a guy takes charge and is somewhat forceful. Man...now you got me all hot n bothered..
cup of sugar. haha.
@jediwa72 - added!!!!!!!
haha i love!
I'm def. going to subscribe to your page.
This post is brilliant!!
REC'D!!
I could've shown this to my fiance, if I hadn't already gone through pretty much everything here with him. lol!
Excellent post!!
haha interesting (: i can't agree more though.
Hah, this is awesome
Ha, so very true. I think it's so adorable when me and my fiance' are watching tv and out of nowhere he'll turn and kiss me on my forehead .. *sigh*
This is excellent! So true...every last word of it.
I'm a big fan of the random romantic moments that come out of nowhere. My fiance is the king of that. He picks strange moments and makes them so touching and beautiful.
Well done,
Taylor
Wrote it down on my arm as a cheatsheet...will try some of these suggestions when I get home. Hahaha...
Oh yeah - so true........ V
Common sense things for the not so common sense people.
@Demon_DAngesouvie - sad, but true.
I'm one of the only guys commenting here. Suhweet. The ladies shall be all MINE!
Seriously though, I think number one is a bit tough since simply asking for sex and being up-front can very easily come across as offensive, or make you look like a selfish jackass even in the context of a serious relationship... and especially outside of that context. Do you just simply "go for it" and hope for the best or are there appropriate times to ask for it and not-so-appropriate times to ask for it? You don't have to answer but it's something to think about.
@Extremegoatmaster - don't just say "hey, can we have sex?!" — that's just lazy. but don't try to hint around about it, without making any effort to woo.
@BarelyJen - How about, "I'd like to make love to you"? or, "I'd like to take you to bed"?
Too forward?
I always use to say, Sex begins in the kitchen, the living room, and the dining room.
[Begins Taking Notes] Thanks!
Common sense never sounded so sweet. You've got my rec!