Thursday, 09 October 2008
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YOUR opinion matters ... give it to me!
my follow-up post is almost complete, but i want to hear from YOU!
guys: what does your girl that makes you happy? think beyond sexual for a moment ...
girls: what do you do to keep him happy?
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For girls: security. Bigtime.
PUT OUT. This seems simple, but be physically available to your mate. Be emotionally available. just be.
Wait wait... are you asking what makes girls/guys happy or are you asking what, say, my girl (if I had one) does to make me happy? If it's the latter, normally what makes me very happy is just sharing those close moments together before, during, and after a nice little sexual encounter.
keep him from going off the deep end. he negative talks, so I'm there to keep his spirits up and keep him on the right track
She smiles. Her smile alone is able to fill me with a warm and happy feeling.
She's kind and caring. She won't stand for people giving me shit and never forgets to tell me how much she loves me.
he tends to fly off the handle when he's had a bad day, so I wrestle him and tickle him and kiss him into a good mood :)
a long list of things but to begin with - just be me.
then, on top of that i smile. i laugh with him. i show him that i care by asking him how his day was. i hug him a lot. i tell him i love him many times a day. i cook for him. i don't bitch at him all the time (only sometimes!). i "let" him go fishing (lol). i am open minded when it comes to sex (with him of course). i can take care of myself and don't rely on him (although i let him take care of me when he feel he needs to like when i'm sick or whatever). i basically am just his best friend.
Every guy loves to know that his girl respects him and thinks he's the best. So compliments, lots of compliments. Stroke his ego, let him know that he's wanted and needed. Let him help you with little things...trust is big to a guy! ^_^
Justin says that leaving him alone makes him happy. I know, that sounds absolutely terrible, but I can be very annoying. I do it to get on his nerves, not one of my better traits. However, he really just in general enjoys his alone time. What I try to do to make him happy is doing little special things such as: picking up his favorite dessert or snack when I near his favorite food places like Krystals chicks, letting him sleep for 30 more minutes when he looks like an angel sleeping (minus the drool), or rubbing his back or feet after a rough day for him.
...what December said.
Girls to Guys: We give respect, we want respect back. Respect us and our needs (that aren't too outlandish) - and we suck with hints. No hints, no obvious hints, no "in your face" hints. No plane flying with a message behind it hints. Tell us what you want. Trust me, its a lot easier for both of us.
Be yourself, be goofy with us - let your guard down. Hell, have fun, you only live once!
Guys to Girls: Good luck! ;)
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Or like I mentioned in an earlier consveration:
Guys are Microwaves, Girls are Crockpots. We can turn on right away, but if you really want to get a girl going - start in the morning and build her up all day. A whisper here, a suggestive text message there - drive her crazy all day when she can't have you and she'll drive you crazy tonight when she can!
She loves me for who I am.
My girlfriend and I have been together for four years, and I think much of it stems from my insistence on complete and open honesty. She would get bugged by little things, not tell me, then let them explode out a month later. We've gotten to the point where we talk out all our problems as they arise. It's not an easy system to make work, but once it does you don't understand how you could have been in a relationship without it.
Laughing at his silliness. Complete and brutal honesty...he loves that! Encouraging his sick alpha-male ego....
Not just making him dinner...but following it up with dessert (don't be a perv here either)! I rub his feet and pamper him. There are so many things...but there's a few. I know he really loves when I can be myself around his family...when I ask about his family, etc.
After he's had a long day at football, I like to rub his back. He really loves it :)
He likes when I bring him food (cause I can't cook).
Just little things :)
I keep the DampRid container in the bathroom refilled.
No, really, that's a pretty big deal to him...we all have our..."quirks". That's one of his. On a more serious outlook, he likes that I appreciate his sense of humor. We were talking about this last night while he was helping me prime some of the nursery furniture. I guess some people don't "get it" and I do...and that's a sticking point for him.
Make sure that your safe calling him before you go to bed or if your going somewheres.
He gives me comfort and loving care. Whether I'm upset or not, he holds me in his arms for long periods of time, it just gives me so much security and I know he really cares about me.
Honest and open communication is important to me. Trust. And chemistry...of course!
And congrats. on the weight loss and keep up the good work
I cant say what I do for him, you'd have to ask him, duh! As far as I go though, he lets the dogs out in the morning, gets the kids up and takes them to school so that I dont even have to get out of bed....to me that says so much more than any foreplay! M
Respect her.
Give her space when she needs it
Be there when she needs you.
I text him when he's working and let him know I love him. Just a little something like that goes a long way.