Thursday, 16 October 2008

  • how to keep your man satisfied. (the follow-up)



    what started as a comment on a friend's blog turned into a surprising phenomenon called "how to bed your woman".

    a few of you had requested a follow-up post, and — truth be told — the wheels were already turning. lol, but i'm not going to lie — i totally thought this was going to be a phone-in post; something simple, like:

    "how to bed your man: tell him you wanna do it. the end."

    but really, how fun is that to write OR read?!

    instead, i bring you “how to keep your man satisfied.”

    we'll start with the elephant in the room. YES, i am a woman ... the tips i share with you are things i've learned from my own relationships, from the pre-marital counseling classes husband and i took, from some of the best — and most honest — guy friends a girl could ask for, sage words from my mom, and yes, even a few of you.

    girls, you need to:

    1. stroke him. mom has given me great advice over the years, but none has served me more than this pearl of wisdom: “it’s important to tell him he’s important. make him feel good about himself, and he’ll make you feel good about you.” i’ve applied this to all the men in my life — co-workers, fathers, friends and husband — and it has paid off in spades. however, there’s a fine line between pointing out their positives and blowing them out of proportion. if you say it, be sure it’s TRUE and said genuinely — otherwise, it’ll come back to bite you. you hold his ego by the cahones — handle them with care.

    Every guy loves to know that his girl respects him and thinks he's the best. So compliments, lots of compliments. Stroke his ego, let him know that he's wanted and needed. Let him help you with little things." — Madoushi_Shoujo

    2. satisfy him. the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. there’s no need to be his lil’ betty crocker, but making nosh he loves is important. remember: just because you eat tofu doesn’t mean he will. figure out your culinary compromise, and the rest will be a piece of cake.

    He likes when I bring him food (cause I can't cook). — LaLaLici0us

    3. please him. the little things you do for him go a long way. he may not always admit it, but he enjoys the “thinking of you” text message you send. he really DOES notice when you take the trash out, even if it's his chore. romantic to practical, find a new way to say “i love you” every day.

    i show him that i care by asking him how his day was.  i hug him a lot.  i tell him i love him many times a day. — cre13

    4. get down and dirty. it’s important to be honest with your man. as my buddy brent said, “be obvious. guys suck at hints! don’t say you’re fine and storm off angry. that just pisses us off more.” if you’re mad, tell him! there’s nothing that can’t be solved with communication. talk openly, honestly and often.

    My girlfriend and I have been together for four years, and I think much of it stems from my insistence on complete and open honesty. She would get bugged by little things, not tell me, then let them explode out a month later. We've gotten to the point where we talk out all our problems as they arise. It's not an easy system to make work, but once it does you don't understand how you could have been in a relationship without it. — GodlessLiberal

    5. play with him.     there are a thousand faces to a woman, so show him more than ms. pms. you both know your personality is impeccable, so SHOW IT! giggle ... have fun ... smile ... play! let a few walls down and remind him why he fell in love with you. 

    “I wrestle him and tickle him and kiss him into a good mood. ” — CanadianConspiracy

    6. do that one thing he likes, but you don't like doing ...     this one is actually pretty straight-forward. show interest in him by doing what he’s interested in. watch a football game with him one night (even if you don’t get it), make a bowling date (despite your disgust for ugly shoes) or play a video game (up, up, down, down, left, right, left, right, B, A wha?!). your actions will speak louder than those three special words.

    and finally, if you take anything away from this post, let it be this:

    7. give it to him. affection is key. kisses, cuddles and hand holding is important to every relationship, and should be given often. with that said, don’t forget about that sexual appetite! satisfy those cravings as much as possible, and you’re golden. (reminder: never, ever use sex as a bargaining tool!)

    PUT OUT. This seems simple, but be physically available to your mate. — Antisoccermom



    go forth, ladies, and conquer your man!

    *recommendations are welcome

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